My father raised us to step toward trouble rather than to step away from it.

My father wouldn't get us a TV, he wouldn't allow a TV in the house.

The fact my relationship with my son is so good makes me forgiving of my father and also appreciative.

As a father now, I wouldn't do what my dad did, because it left me feeling emotionally unstable as a kid. But he didn't do the things he did out of selfishness or malice.

Up until I became a father, it was all about self-obsession. But then I learned exactly what it's all about: the delight of being a servant.

Apart from life, a strong constitution, and an abiding connection to the Thembu royal house, the only thing my father bestowed upon me at birth was a name, Rolihlahla.